本集節目將從『社會情緒學習』(SEL)五大核心能力的「關係技巧」(Relationship Skills)和「負責任決策」(Responsible Decision-Making)出發 - 透過2句英文SEL金句、2本英語繪本,以及分別給予孩子和爸爸媽媽的陪伴句 - 協助聽眾瞭解如何表達自己的感受與需求,進而化解衝突。
This episode will focus on two of the five core competencies of Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) — *Relationship Skills* and *Responsible Decision-Making*. Through two English SEL quotes, two English picture books, and companion phrases designed separately for children and for parents, the program will help listeners understand how to express their own feelings and needs, and thereby resolve conflicts.
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1.「Conflict is not about who is right. It's about what is best.」(衝突不在於誰輸誰贏,而在於找出最好的解決辦法。)
2.「The best way to resolve a conflict is to understand the heart behind the hurt.」(解決衝突的最好辦法,就是先去理解對方那個受傷背後的心情。)
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主題一:專家觀點下的「衝突冰山」
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主題二:雙語共學 - 衝突怎麼說?
1.《The Squirrels Who Squabbled》by Rachel Bright
2.《I Am a Problem Solver!》by Cynthia Ross
小口訣1:「說出感受不指責,I-Statement最可靠」
小口訣2:「表面行為看得見,感受需求更重要」
問題1:我現在感覺如何?
問題2:我希望對方了解什麼?
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主題三:親子任務 - 表達「感受」與「需求」的心對話
1.「我知道你很難過。發生了什麼事,要不要說給我聽呢?」(I can see you’re feeling sad. Do you want to tell me what happened?)
口訣:「看見 → 接納 → 問話」
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1.「我聽到你很生氣,你希望我做點什麼來幫助你嗎?」(I can tell you're really angry. How can I help you?)
口訣:「聆聽 → 同理 → 問需求」
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1.「我的內在正在發生衝突,我得先看見自己的需求。」(I feel some inner conflict. I need to check what I really need first.)
口訣:「暫停 → 覺察 → 負責任」