本集節目將從『社會情緒學習』(SEL)五大核心能力的「自我覺察」(Self-Awareness)跟「社會覺察」(Social-Awareness)出發,透過2句英文SEL金句、3本英語繪本,以及分別給予孩子和爸爸媽媽的陪伴句,一起勇敢面對一個所有人都害怕的感覺 – 被拒絕 - 練習用更成熟、更健康的方式去理解它、表達它,跟它建立連結,並從中找到自我成長的力量。
This episode draws on "Self-Awareness" and "Social Awareness", two core competencies of Social and Emotional Learning (SEL). Through two English SEL quotes, three English picture books, and supportive phrases crafted separately for children and for parents, the episode explores a feeling that everyone fears — rejection. Together, we will learn to face it with courage, understand it in a more mature and healthy way, express it, connect with it, and eventually discover the strength for personal growth hidden within this experience.
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#英文SEL金句
1.「Rejection is an event, not a judgment of your worth.」(拒絕是一個事件,而不是對你價值的評判。)
這句話幫助我們瞭解如何區分事件與自我價值。
2.「What you do after rejection determines who you become.」(被拒絕之後你怎麼做,決定了你將成為誰。)
這句話告訴我們決定權在自己手上。
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主題一:致大人 - 處理被拒絕的錯誤觀念。
第一個誤區:過度共情,把孩子的痛苦當成自己的失敗。
第二個誤區:教孩子「戰鬥」或者「假裝不在乎」。
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主題二:雙語共學 - 從羞愧走向負責。
#英語繪本:
1.《Chrysanthemum》by Kevin Henkes
「It scarcely fits on your name tag!」(妳的名牌都快塞不下妳的名字了!)
「She wilted. She felt as if she had been doused with ice water.」(她整個人都萎縮了下來,感覺好像被冰水從頭澆下來一樣。)
2.《The Koala Who Could》by Rachel Bright
「He clung on tight. And he kept things the same. His life was okay... But it felt like a shame.」(他緊緊抓住不放,保持一切如常。生活還算可以……但總覺得有些遺憾。)
「The world is wider than he thought it could be.」(這個世界,比他想像的還要寬廣。)
3.《Thelma the Unicorn》by Aaron Blabey
「She had so many fans ...... but was still feeling alone.」(她有這麼多粉絲……但仍然感到孤單。)
「It’s always best to be yourself.」(做自己永遠是最好的。)
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主題三:親子任務 - 修復的力量
#給學齡孩子的陪伴句:
1.「你有覺得被忽略的時候嗎?那個時候,你最需要什麼呢?」(Have you ever felt ignored? What did you need most at that moment?)
2.「這不代表你不好,只是這一次他們還不懂得看見你的好。」(This doesn’t mean you’re not good enough; it just means they haven’t yet learned to see the good in you.)
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#給少男少女的陪伴句:
1.「關係的結束,不等於世界末日。」(The end of a relationship is not the end of your world.)
2.「難過沒關係,但你的價值不該由別人的點讚數來決定。」(It’s okay to feel sad, but your worth shouldn’t be determined by someone else’s likes.)
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#給大人的陪伴句:
1.「這只是一次拒絕,不是對我能力的永久否定。我已經盡力了。」(This is just one rejection, not a permanent denial of my abilities. I’ve already done my best.)
2.「這股痛會過去,而我對自己的看法,比別人的選擇更重要。」(This pain will pass, and the way I see myself matters more than the choices others make.)